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Is it Bad things happen in 3's or is it 4's?

Madmidget

Madmidget

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I think I once heard that bad things happen in groups of 3 or it could have been 4. Anyway, if it is 4 then I'm waiting for the other shoe to drop.

Over the last couple of weeks it seems that I have been hit with a string of bad news or bad things. First, I found out my 6year old son has ASD (Autism Spectrum Disorder) Though not life threatening, it was a HUGE emotional blow to the wife and I. I feel guilt for not realizing it sooner, but am glad that it was discovered. It will be a long tough road that we are just taking the beginning steps onto. If anyone has any resources or suggestions, please PM or email them to me.

Second thing was the declining health of my wife's mother. She has Alzheimer's and has taken a serious decline over the last couple of weeks. My wife will be quitting her job to be a full time caregiver for her. She will also be moving in with us since she can no longer live alone. The reduction in income and having to take on another person will be extremely rough on our entire family (and put a huge dent in my cigar budget) I'm hoping that this and the added attention that my son will require wont drive my wife insane, because you married guys know "If mama ain't happy, no one is happy" Again, any information would be helpful.

Well now comes the topper. In the round of rain and wind we had last night, the 40ft tall pine tree in my back yard lost a HUGE limb which took out the roof to my office/dad room/ man cave. The place that I had my laptop, digital cameras, guns, and most importantly...... my humidors. The only things that weren't beyond reprieve were my guns and the shitty Thompson bundles that I had stashed in a small cooler in the closet. I think the humidors might be salvageable, but the contents aren't. They are badly scratched, will need new hinges, and are soaked to the bone. Any idea if I can salvage them? Main thing is, no one was hurt. Just my feelings.

Hopefully my insurance company will be snappy in getting my claim processed so I can get everything back to normal. I was going to be giving the room up for my mother-in-law, but I wanted one last "Man Day" in it.

I would appreciate it if you guys would keep my family in your thoughts and prayers. God knows I need some.

Thanks for listening.
 
Keep that chin up bro. Just thank God that no one was hurt and you still have one another. I always try to focus on the positive things when times are tough. Hope things turn for the better.
 
Good thoughts and prayers headed your way. Stay strong bud.
 
Man MadMidget, alot of peril has headed your way, but ultimately, in the end it will make you a stronger man for your family, your wife's mother, and your son. As stated, I am happy nobody was hurt, and the cigars and humis are ALWAYS replaceable. I'll be keeping you guys in prayer with all of this going on, just remember, there is a power greater than you at work in all of this.

-Jonathan
 
Hang in there brother.
 
it sucks to hear all that. im sorry so much has been put on you in such a short period but there is a saying that goes something like
god will only put in your hands what he knows you can handle
i know we are not supposed to get religious or political on the post so i appologize if i offended anyone

Keep your head up Madmidget
 
The important thing is that you try to remain upbeat through it all. Remember that it's not what happens to you, it's how you handle it. Best of luck in getting through all of it.
 
Hang in there Bro, We didn't know my son Justin was Autistic until he was also 6 or 7, we found the best elementary school special ed program available and enrolled him, he is now 16 and the special ed department at his High School has found him a part time job! Justin is what they call high-functioning autistic, he is very reclusive, doesn't like to talk much almost to the point of avoiding conversation. I've had all those second guesses if I could have done anything to find out sooner, sometimes I wonder if we are involved enough in his education, we go to all the meetings in constant contact with his teachers and still think we should be doing more so try not to be so hard on yourself, just do all you can, and there is quite a bit of help out there if you seek it out. Keep up the good fight.

http://www.autismspeaks.org/

edited to put in link and fix my stoopid spelling errors
 
Wow, I'm VERY sorry all of this is happening at one time. I wish you and your family the best moving forward. keep your head up and keep on going. You've got a family in us all, so if there's anything you need...hollar at us!

-Aaron
 
Things happen in threes is what i have always heard.
My daughter is 6 and doing testing might have same type of thing still trying to find out but school is not helping.
Best thing about low times in you life is it gets better from there.
 
Thanks for the encouragement guys.

The enormity of it all really overwhelmed me and still does at times. My son goes to a great school and we will be getting help from them on the education front. That is a BIG relief in itself. I also think that the more that the wife and I educate ourselves on Autism, it will make things a little easier.

As for the Alzheimer's, I worked for a medical equipment company for 10 years and know all to well what we will be dealing with there. That is something I am NOT looking forward to at all. That above everything else has me concerned the most. I have seen families have to go through the process, so I'm not going into this blind. That is a blessing and a curse. It wont be easy, but I know it is the right thing to do.

My wife's uncle is in home repairs and he is starting on my roof tomorrow morning. Hopefully my "skylight" will be filled back in tomorrow night or first thing Friday. Then we will start the process of getting mother-in-law moved in.

The cigars and humi's can be replaced. It is more of the sentimental value of them being the first ones I owned, but I'll get over it. I'm not a rich man, so starting another collection of cigars wont be easy.

Well, thanks again guys. I'm off the the B&M to get me a couple of sticks to help me forget about all this for a couple of hours.
 
St. Paul tells us that "God works for good in all things..." It seems small consolation in the midst of great trials but when we look back we can see evidence that we are never alone. You and those you love are truly not walking through this alone.
I suspect that some "angels" may help out with the lost sticks.
I will be holding you and your's in prayer.
 
Don't worry, it usually happens in threes. Every time shit hits the fan with me, it always comes in three.

At least the tree didn't fall on any of your beloved family, that is a big positive.

Stay strong, and good luck with your woes.
 
I'm sorry this is happening to you. In my experience, bad things always come in threes so you shouldn't have to worry about any more bad news coming your way. I will be PMing you with a few websites and organizational information you might want to look into. My prayers go out to you and your family.
 
Sorry to hear about all the bad news. Have faith in the Lord and He will take care of your family. You have extra prayers held up from Tennessee. Hang in there.
 
MM,
Hang in there Bro, things always have a way of working out. You just have to have faith and keep going.

Dave
 
I want to thank everyone for the kind words and also thank all those that sent me info links. You have made the education process much easier for the wife and I.

I have a solid roof again and the drywall is almost complete. The floors will be next.

Still hurts my feeling to walk into the room.

Thanks again everyone.
 
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