moki
el Presidente
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We're all aware that when you engage in a trade, it's expected that you turn your end around quickly, and if there will be any delay, you communicate that properly and effectively. This is a given.
What I'd like to expound upon is my opinion of what proper etiquette should be when someone sends you a "bomb", that is, an unsolicited gift.
My personal opinion is that a gift is a gift; if you're sending someone cigars or anything else with an expectation of getting something in return, then you probably shouldn't send the gift out. That's not what it is about. All you should justly expect is that you will bring a smile to someone's face, and a heartfelt "thank you."
On the other side of things, when someone sends me a gift, in addition to thanking them, I add them to my notes such that at some time in the future, I make sure to return the favor. Sometimes it may be immediate, sometimes it may not; it depends on my schedule and also when I find something that I feel is appropriate.
Right now looking at my notes, I have 3 people who will, at some point in the future, be receiving something from me. I don't feel any particular pressure to get something out to them ASAP like I would in a trade. Rather, I try to have a little fun with it, and keep a lookout for something that I think might be a proper thing to return the favor.
Here's an example (and Infinity, I hope you don't mind me using you as an example). Infinity sent me a wonderful package a few months ago. In the forums I had fun taunting him a bit, telling him that "something was coming", etc., just my way of a little lighthearted taunting.
I think it took me a month and a half to two months to actually send something to him, though. I'd been waiting for something that I thought was appropriate to send to him, so that I could return the sentiment, not just finish a pecuniary transaction.
I'm interested in hearing what folks here think of the etiquette of "bombing" or "gifting."
(Some of you who are on multiple forums will notice that I posted this elsewhere as well; curious to hear what each board thinks on the subject).
What I'd like to expound upon is my opinion of what proper etiquette should be when someone sends you a "bomb", that is, an unsolicited gift.
My personal opinion is that a gift is a gift; if you're sending someone cigars or anything else with an expectation of getting something in return, then you probably shouldn't send the gift out. That's not what it is about. All you should justly expect is that you will bring a smile to someone's face, and a heartfelt "thank you."
On the other side of things, when someone sends me a gift, in addition to thanking them, I add them to my notes such that at some time in the future, I make sure to return the favor. Sometimes it may be immediate, sometimes it may not; it depends on my schedule and also when I find something that I feel is appropriate.
Right now looking at my notes, I have 3 people who will, at some point in the future, be receiving something from me. I don't feel any particular pressure to get something out to them ASAP like I would in a trade. Rather, I try to have a little fun with it, and keep a lookout for something that I think might be a proper thing to return the favor.
Here's an example (and Infinity, I hope you don't mind me using you as an example). Infinity sent me a wonderful package a few months ago. In the forums I had fun taunting him a bit, telling him that "something was coming", etc., just my way of a little lighthearted taunting.
I think it took me a month and a half to two months to actually send something to him, though. I'd been waiting for something that I thought was appropriate to send to him, so that I could return the sentiment, not just finish a pecuniary transaction.
I'm interested in hearing what folks here think of the etiquette of "bombing" or "gifting."
(Some of you who are on multiple forums will notice that I posted this elsewhere as well; curious to hear what each board thinks on the subject).