Oh, and there was no ultimatum, implied or expressed, and, like i said, it was more the counselors idea. Now total time away from the family is another subject, and between going to Gator games, fishing, hunting, and cigars and time spent on boards i recognized that 1st go round w/ counseling and have worked on that issue. Biggest thing i did for time with the family was walking away from a job that i was a significant part of growing the business from 5mil in sales to 110mil in sales over a 15yr period, and i walked way from well into 6 digits of 'backside' $ as the payout would come when the company sold. Best decision i ever made, family is more important than cash, i had to get on a plane every week from Tues to Friday. Relationships with my children have improved drastically, and overall, so has the marriage, but there's still a few issues to work through to improve it where we both are very happy. We are not staying together solely for the kids, we both know the grass ain't any greener on the other side, but the truth is having kids is a huge responsibility, and having the 2 parents there makes a HUGE difference, not that kids can't get through divorce. My biggest issue is moderation, with everything, my 'personality' is 110% effort of nada, and over the past few years that's gotten better, but still some work to do. Tunnel vision can be a plus or a minus, depending on how you manage it.
Damn, i kinda spilled my guts didn't i. :blush: To me feel better, someone could send me a Opus OR or Opus Maddy :laugh: