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Argh! I'm frustrated!

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Dr. Marneaus

I drive a station wagon
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Las Vegas, NV
Okay, don't read it if you pretty much dont want to hear me bitch about life at the moment.

That being said, here goes!

I'm having a really frustrating day. Everything is moving so damn fast right now. 6 weeks left in school, and my workload (Taking 19 credits, as an architecture major) is about to get way heavier than it already is. I have tons of projects and pin ups and juries from now till the end of the semester. I also work part time, and I am also a resident assistant here at UNLV.

I'm trying to get my life in order, finding an apartment with a friend and his girlfriend, trying ti figure out finances, trying to get a second job so I can have 80 hour work weeks, etc. We found what seems to be the best apartment for our needs, very nice, new, okay location, good price, good lay out, good size, 2 bathrooms, etc. Well, someone (read: girl) doesn't like 1 or 2 little things, where as me and my buddy are all for it. I'm sorry girl, the location is not PERFECT but you are not going to find everything else closer with that price tag.

My parents are coming to town next week, and with all the crap, I barely have time to see them, forget about MORE apartment searching, which I did BY MY SELF for the previous month, choosing the best ones to look at. Suck it up girl, you might have to drive an extra 5 minutes to school or to see daddy who lives on the other side of town, heaven forbid!

As far as work goes, I'm sick and tired of this RA crap, apparently UNLV lets middle schoolers live in campus housing, or at least thats how they act. Listen idiot residents, if you don't wanna have a grudge against me either man up and accept the fact they you got written up, or hmm, here's an idea DON'T BE AN IDIOT AND GET CAUGHT DRINKING IN THE DORM YOU ****************. "Oh, we're gonna smoke hooka inside our room, play beer pong really loud, and then take 5 minutes to answer the door while clinking bottles, and hope the RA's on duty don't catch us. Then we're gonna be little bitches about it and try to get back at the mean RA's by having a "rootbeer pong party" at 1am. Well, they felt bad when we called he coordinator to confront what we KNEW was a bogus party.

ARGH I'm just so frustrated with everyone around me! People call me "Rage" and I can really see why...

sigh.... I need a cigar.

Thanks for listening, or not listening.
 
Here is my advice to you. Find the smallest apt you can find and live alone. Having to listen to another couple fight while trying to get anything done is the pits. Then you have to take sides. It can get very messy. If you live alone you don't have to worry about people eating your food when you are not there, worry about sharing the bathroom or worry with having to put up with anyone's crap but your own. Good luck to you.
 
It's just like listening to my o'lady bit*h. Except instead of "listening" i'm just scrolling. But equal amount of giving a sh*t.

J/K man. Putting up with freshman suck. At least you'll be somewhere better soon. But TRUST ME...living with a buddy and his girlfriend sucks worse than the dorms. Nothing you do will be up to her standards (and she aint even yours). Like another wife-type but no action. No deal.

Good luck brutha :thumbs:


Derek
 
I cant afford to live on my own, I'd have a dump of an apartment. Most good single's are still 700+ a month, I'm not worried about living with buddy and his girl, own room etc. worst case, she gets booted, it's our apartment. I'd rather live with 2 arguing friends than alone, did the alone thing, and it's...well...lonely.

And sorry about bitching, I'm just so frustrated with a bunch of crap right now.
 
Relax Andrew...

You have a ton of things on your plate at the moment. I know how the workload wears on you. My stepson just finished up at University of NewHaven and this last semester was a total bitch. You are starting to see more clearly now, that happens as you climb that dreaded maturity ladder. I'm sure would just love all the pieces to fall into place. Dont worry ...they will. I have found that when I'm stretched in that many directions and I try to accomplish it all, and I just dont get there. The best thing to do is tackle them one at a time and check them off as complete. Its alot better to finish up one task at 100% then it is to try and finsh ten things and only be able to do 20% of any of them. All the later does is dish out tons of frustration.

It sure seems like you have a decent set of goals. Now you job is to prioritize them and finish them up one at a time.

One other thing to try is take some vitamins...expecially helpful are the B Complex. They will help stop some of the spin. If you cant find the time for the vitamins try some of that VitaminWater . I know they have one loaded with B Complex...

give it a try it works..

and above all..dont get frustrated and give in...Have some faith...It really works too..

art
 
thanks for the good advice. I have a buncha vitamins here, that I don't take, so I guess I can start.

And I do have faith, a ton of faith, that everything WILL work out in the end, it's just for the time being, it kinda sucks. There's a reason you're not supposed to have a job while being an RA, and why you're not supposed to take more than 16 credits while being an RA...
 
Sorry to hear it's so frustrating. It will pass though. Sounds like a rough time before you get to nicer things. I'm still wrapping up the writing of my dissertation while moving to across the country, and I agree that it is much better to do one at a time to completion, or will have the uncompleted ones hovering over your head. I was friends with a few RA's while I was an undergraduate and I can understand the pain. Not everyone holds the grudge forever though. ONe of the kids he busted met up with him through mutual friends this year, about 5 years after the incident. He barely remembered he was his RA and they laughed about the story. The nasty trick the school pulled on us as freshmen was the person who had set the record for damage to the dorm was made our RA. So any shenanigans we did were doubled by him and he wrote you up.

Good luck on the next six weeks. And relax don't worry have a homebrew and cigar.
James
 
Now you have me stressed out. I'm heading to the roof to smoke a cigar. I'll think good thought for you.

Geoff
 
Listening to your buddy and his girlfriend fight isn't so bad, it's listening to them screw like bunnies that is REALLY annoying.


Man up. Qwit yer bitchin' and grow a pair. Life doesn't get any easier and the things you're facing now are cake compared to what lies ahead. Learn to deal with it now or you will certainly perish when the times REALLY get tough.

I know that sounds harsh (and it's really said tongue in cheek), but it's going to serve you better than a simple "Hang in there, buddy. You;ll be OK."

Good luck.
 
Come in son. Lie down on my couch. I charge $250 an hour. Go ahead, shoot your mouth off, I'm all ears. I won't say anything unless you ask me to.
:sign: :sign:
Ok, group hug, off you go, all done, all ok.

Seriously young man. count your blessings, it's actually good out there when you compare. :cool:

Brian
 
Did I not say I know everything will be fine in the end? I'm sorry, but all the "man up and deal with it" comments don't really apply. I have manned up ad I have dealt with each situation I've been presented with...but I bitched about it. I don't think there's anyone that will say it's healthy to hold all this anger and crap in, and that venting is an unhealthy practice.

Just had to get it off my chest to some people who have no involvement what-so-ever, because when I tell someone who knows someone then the drama starts, like I said, apparently we're still in middle school and high school.

thanks
 
Damn bro, sorry to hear your have stressfull times. Hang in there and smoke a good cigar and chill out somewhere relaxfull.
 
Dr. Marneaus said:
Did I not say I know everything will be fine in the end? I'm sorry, but all the "man up and deal with it" comments don't really apply. I have manned up ad I have dealt with each situation I've been presented with...but I bitched about it. I don't think there's anyone that will say it's healthy to hold all this anger and crap in, and that venting is an unhealthy practice.

Just had to get it off my chest to some people who have no involvement what-so-ever, because when I tell someone who knows someone then the drama starts, like I said, apparently we're still in middle school and high school.

thanks
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Well, if you're going to act like a spoiled brat every time you come here and throw your hissy fits, then quit doing it. You always ask for "honest advice" and then get pissed off when you get honest advice.

You seem like you're probably a pretty good guy, and your actions have proven that, but if you can't deal with the stress you have now, you're going to get eaten alive in the real world. It gets worse. A whole lot worse. There are very few people out here ready to pat you on the back and tell you to keep your head up. More likely you're going to get told what you did wrong, how and why you did it wrong, and threatened not to do it again. Learn to let this stuff slide right off your back, and don't create additional stress for yourself. Come on here and have fun. Use this as your escape from reality.

Now you hold your head up tiger, because everything will be just fine.
 
Thanks DM for the laugh (at your expense). College is a test. Some would say a Darwinian test. It is certainly survival of the fittest, not necessarily the smartest.
 
Dr. Marneaus said:
I cant afford to live on my own, I'd have a dump of an apartment. Most good single's are still 700+ a month, I'm not worried about living with buddy and his girl, own room etc. worst case, she gets booted, it's our apartment. I'd rather live with 2 arguing friends than alone, did the alone thing, and it's...well...lonely.

And sorry about bitching, I'm just so frustrated with a bunch of crap right now.
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You'd be surprised what the "worst case" can actually turn out to be. Don't count on such a thing happening.

As for your general situation; welcome to the beginning of adulthood. More often than not, things do get more stressful than that. All told, venting or not, you've got it just fine, if not great, right now brother.

Edited for a typo.
 
MiamiCubano said:
All told, venting or not, you've got it just fine, if not great, right now brother.
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I agree 100%

Y'all can draw your own conclusions about anything else, but please let me clarify one thing. I am entirely grateful of everything that I DO have and for my life, I know my life isn't hard compared to most, and I know things could be way worse. But you all know, it's all relative.


I am grateful for everything, I have faith that everything will work out in the end (as a result of all the work I put in now), and I tell myself every day that I'm right where God wants me to be. However, I still reserve the right to complain when times get irritating.

I'm sorry about this thread, I don't want to be know for being a little bitch that complains all the time. Prolly should have though wiser of posting it here. I don't want this to get rude or what have you, I'm being respectful in my responses, and I think I'd be dumb if a thread like this that has nothing to do with cigars gives me a bad name or gives some folks (even if a few) a bad impression of me. If I have offended or come off in a negative way to any of you, please disregard this thread that was made while I was enraged, and let my BOTL-related actions speak for me, rather than a few hot headed posts.

Thanks
 
class got moved across town tonight, so instead of complaining about that I'll look at it as a good opportunity to take a ride and listen to some good music, because that's what it is.
 
My last post came off pretty assy, and I apologize to you for that. You're actions do say alot about your character, and I for one have never doubted that. I forget that college, and all that is associated, can be stressful while you are there. After you are away from it, it seems like it was all parties and hanging out, but I almost burnt out on it while I was there also. I'm a high strung person, just like you seem to be, and the one piece I would give you is right now, start working on finding a good way to manage your stress, and learn to deal with it before you wear your emotions on your sleeve. I didn't know how to deal with it, and honestly I've hurt myself at my job by giving off the impression that I can't handle stress. Because of a few blow ups almost 8 years ago, I still pay for it everytime I go up for a promotion.

I guess what I'm saying is it's easy for me to look at your situation in college, and think that it seems like needless whining, and I forget that when I was in your shoes I did the same thing. So again, accept my apology.
 
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