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Ettiquette Question

Marco-Polo

Marco-Polo

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This is the reverse of a "jilted" thread. I've received a couple of trades where I feel that I got the MUCH better side of the deal. I don't want to seem ungrateful or rude (I really appreciate it, and this has given me the chance to try cigars that I would never have bought for myself), but I'd like advice on how to tactfully and appropriately thank the BOTL involved.

Best regards to all.
 
Pm them and let them know how you feel.
Alot of brothers do this NOT because they want a pat on the back or tp be praised on the board by others, But because they want others to share in their passion of cigars..
Also before publicly mentioning ppl I would always ask them first.
As a majority of them dont like to be in the spotlight.
 
I think it's perfectly acceptable to thank a brother in public, and I do it when I'm lucky enough to be gifted some great smokes. However, it is bad etiquette to disclose the contents of the gift, or bomb as they are called here. Our own SamClemmons said it better than I ever could have:

Am I the only one that has issues with people saying exactly what was sent to them or what they sent? I think this is bad form. There was a time here and elsewhere when folks simply voiced there appreciation for an unexpected "bomb" by saying thank you and then qualifying their thank you with things like... I am floored . . . You were way to generous . . . I can never repay you . . . Are you insane. . . Above and beyond . . . Incredible. . . and the like to express their thoughts on the generosity of the sender.

The reason for the anonymity of the contents of a bomb or trade is really quite simple. There are folks who are more generous with some people than they are with others. There are people with deep pockets and those for whom the bottom line is much closer. Maybe a guy is friends with someone off line and decides to crush his friend with premium sticks or maybe he just likes someone and sends a little something. The point here is that if the contents of a bomb or trade is openly discussed it puts an unfair pressure on the sender or receiver to duplicate their generosity with the next guy. It also makes this person a target for guys to bomb with the expectation that this generous person will reciprocate in the same way as he/she did previously.
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His full post (and the thread) can be found here.

Best Regards - B.B.S.
 
Saying thank you goes a long ways. The biggest thing to remember, in my opinion, is that someday when the shoe is on the other foot, that you pay it forward. If you stick around long enough there will come a time when you will blow somebodies doors off, and you will feel satisfied because you continued a tradition that once happened to you. :thumbs:
 
Thanks for the insight. I would have expected a thank-you, but didn't quite think about not wanting the details to be brought out into the public.
 
Bsneed51 said:
Saying thank you goes a long ways. The biggest thing to remember, in my opinion, is that someday when the shoe is on the other foot, that you pay it forward. If you stick around long enough there will come a time when you will blow somebodies doors off, and you will feel satisfied because you continued a tradition that once happened to you. :thumbs:
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Manglesi's question occured to me as well recently and I appreciate that he brought it forth. These are all great responses and I personally find Bsneed51's, quoted above, to be right on the mark.
 
Having been on both ends, I know how you feel and I was in the same boat many years ago. I can still remember one of my first trades. It was some hemingways for monte 2's. I was new to the game and so I sent exactly what we agreed upon and I got back almost double. I felt like I didn't do my part not knowing about the bonusing etc. I emailed my trade buddy and thanked him and kept asking if he needed anything in addition. Basically all he said was enjoy the selection. I was floored. I won't get into what I got but again, it was almost double the number of sticks that were in the original trade agreement. Since then, when I trade, I always try to see what the recipient is into and try to expand his/her horizons. To me its all about sharing the experience, especially because I'm limited in my free time so I love reading all the reviews etc. I love walking around town and smelling a cigar in the air. Its always a common passion that you can share with other smokers. I've even offered cigars to people at red lights who commented on my license plate (havacgr). To me the more the merrier except when Dion decides to make only say 300 boxes ;) G1
 
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