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SS Pro Surveillance software. Wanna really know what your kids are talking about, this will show you, and it's hidden, so they don't know it's there. We told ours "don't think we can't find out what you're doing on the computer", so they've been warned. Ours is set so certain keywords send us an alert, i only look if i've gotten that alert. In these days and times, it doesn't hurt, IMHO.
 
I'm not extremely familiar with this piece of software - but monitoring your teen's activity online is prudent in this day and age. More than one parent has been thankful they did when their child turned up missing after having started an online romance...
 
Its legal, its prudent, and IMO, your duty as a parent to KNOW what your kid is doing. God forbid that your teen disappears, but there are many lesser problems that you can head off at the pass before its too late.
 
Software could be useful to a parent, but it's only as good as the person using it. ???

I think many parents with teens view technology as a static tool and don't think they have to keep up with it until Oprah tells them about it which only adds to the disconnect between generations.
 
Snooping ultimately leads to distrust between children and their parents. Stick that computer in a well traveled area of the house and put a password on there so they cannot access it when you are not around. Hving an open and honest line of communication with your kids will always work out better than covert operations imo.
 
I'm at the very beginning of this issue. I have a 3 and 7 year old that are on the computer all the time. The 7 year old is starting to type things into the address bar in an attempt to get to games. The last thing I need is for him to mistype something and end up at a porn site or worse. So, I'm looking at cyber-sitter type software that'll prevent that from happening, hopefully.

The teenager issue is something else completely, though. I do believe that it's a parent's obligation to know what's going on with their kids. I have no issues with installing a program like this, but I would tell them that I have done so and I will be able to see anything and everything they've done on the computer. Then explain the rules that I expect them to follow and see how things work out. Nothing's going to be perfect, though. Smart kids will find ways around anything.

---John Holmes...
 
wasy said:
Snooping ultimately leads to distrust between children and their parents. Stick that computer in a well traveled area of the house and put a password on there so they cannot access it when you are not around. Hving an open and honest line of communication with your kids will always work out better than covert operations imo.
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Not a parent yet, but i work with teens. Kids are far smarter than us when it comes to computers and such. They'll probably find a way to circumvent this software. Putting the computer in an "open" place in the house sounds like the better bet. BTW do kids go outside to play anymore?
 
Mark Twain said:
Software could be useful to a parent, but it's only as good as the person using it. ???

I think many parents with teens view technology as a static tool and don't think they have to keep up with it until Oprah tells them about it which only adds to the disconnect between generations.
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Yes, Oprah....the moral light of our generation.. :rolleyes:
 
Lee_Ro_Mo said:
wasy said:
Snooping ultimately leads to distrust between children and their parents. Stick that computer in a well traveled area of the house and put a password on there so they cannot access it when you are not around. Hving an open and honest line of communication with your kids will always work out better than covert operations imo.
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Not a parent yet, but i work with teens. Kids are far smarter than us when it comes to computers and such. They'll probably find a way to circumvent this software. Putting the computer in an "open" place in the house sounds like the better bet. BTW do kids go outside to play anymore?
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Going outside to play... Who remembers games like, JOHNY ON THE PONY....SKELLY.....TRUTH DARE CONSEQUENCES PROMISE OR REPEAT..... and the good old game of STICK BALL..... Some of these may be east coast things...
 
A great email service for kids is kidmail.com. Gives parents control over what emails the kid gets (you see it and have to approve the sender before it goes to the kids inbox) and sends (kid can only send to names you approve). Once you add an email address to your approved list, you can let them exchange emails without your having to approve it every time if you wish.

My oldest has been using it for several months and she has never received any spam with this service. It is very affordable as well.
 
When I grew up, the internet was still fairly young and definitely not like it is today with the myspace and all of that other stuff.

But, even though back then there were programs designed to limit a child's online access, my parents trusted and respected me, and I respected their trust.
 
I shook down every one of my kids bedrooms weekly. To this day, they still don't know. You can't trust a teenager. Damn hormones.

Doc.
 
wasy said:
Snooping ultimately leads to distrust between children and their parents. Stick that computer in a well traveled area of the house and put a password on there so they cannot access it when you are not around. Hving an open and honest line of communication with your kids will always work out better than covert operations imo.
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wow, Captain Obvious ;)

We have the computer in the open in a well traveled part of the house, and of course we have very good lines of communication, you can do both. Primarily this is used to find out about the kids they are hanging out w/ (see what they REALLY are like) so we know if we need to steer them away from certain ones, and to look out for any type of predator. Anything i can do to keep them safe and on the right track, i will do.

How old are your kids?
 
wasy said:
Snooping ultimately leads to distrust between children and their parents. Stick that computer in a well traveled area of the house and put a password on there so they cannot access it when you are not around. Hving an open and honest line of communication with your kids will always work out better than covert operations imo.
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You are right on point about placement of the computer and passwords but I thing the "snooping" software is also important. After all they are children and have no privacy rights as far as I am concerned.
 
Put all my computers on a free service called Hoopaa @ www.hoopaa.com shows all websites the computer has gone to, at that point you have the ability to block the site access. You can also limit the time each computer is able to access the internet etc.

MySpace sites for my 13 and 12 year old were cancelled at the beginning of the year. I can't believe the way they talk to each other online... ??? My kids for the most part are okay but boy some of the things they have access to through others .... WOW!

Seems to be an ongoing dicussion when we get together with other parents with kids the same age.
 
benjiev said:
Put all my computers on a free service called Hoopaa @ www.hoopaa.com shows all websites the computer has gone to, at that point you have the ability to block the site access. You can also limit the time each computer is able to access the internet etc.

MySpace sites for my 13 and 12 year old were cancelled at the beginning of the year. I can't believe the way they talk to each other online... ??? My kids for the most part are okay but boy some of the things they have access to through others .... WOW!

Seems to be an ongoing dicussion when we get together with other parents with kids the same age.
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we whacked the myspace accts also (mine are both 15)
 
My kids are 19 and 21 and I do agree that snooping has it's place and every parent should do everything in their power to keep not only their own childern but all children safe.

You are going to snoop out information that you wish you never new about.
 
wasy said:
Snooping ultimately leads to distrust between children and their parents. Stick that computer in a well traveled area of the house and put a password on there so they cannot access it when you are not around. Hving an open and honest line of communication with your kids will always work out better than covert operations imo.
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I gotta disagree with you there Wasy. Well sort of anyway. I think it would be naive to say I'm not going to monitor just because it might ruffle a few feathers with the kids. A computer placed in a central well traveled area isn't going to do anything really if a child wants to be sneaky anyway. There will always be some opportunity for someone to get on that computer without it being known because parents do leave the house, go to sleep, the bathroom, etc. Whether I trust my kids or not isn't the first issue (for me anyway). What I do know for sure is I DO NOT trust some scumbag piece of shit on the internet just lurking around trying to take advantage of a child.

If you trust your children and still decide to monitor their online activity...wouldn't it feel better to feel guilty about it and even more guilty when you don't find anything? Or skip the guilt and blindly trust them and then rationalize your reasons for not snooping when some predator lures your child away? It's a no brainer :sign:

JAEwing said:
After all they are children and have no privacy rights as far as I am concerned.
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BINGO!



In case you were wondering...father of 2 girls ages 8 & 14 :love:
 
good info here :)

we thought hard about telling them we can see what they do on the computer, but i'm glad we didn't. I haven't seen anything that scared me yet. but i will be letting one of their friends (male) that he needs to watch his language and innuendo. It's pretty interesting hearing their true feelings about things we do as parents, via chatting w/ friends on IM
 
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