Set-In-Stone
The Dude Abides
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- Jun 22, 2011
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....or so they say. 
I just wanted to take a moment to share a little with you all, some recent revelations me and my girlfriend have come to embrace.
After eight long years of a serious relationship, we have to decided to face the facts that we have just grown apart. We met when we were just turning that cusp of our teens into our twenties. We became friends, later became roommates, evolved into lovers, and eventually grown into homeownership with a dog and cat. With my 30th birthday in just 10 days, we spent most of my 20s together. We shared many laughs, smiles, and great conversations. Yet, the love that had grown for each other, kept us from facing the truth. That for the past few years - the passion was gone. It's hard to explain, the hurt one feels from realizing that you just are better off not in a relationship to prevent hurting each other any more. I never knew it is possible to love someone so much, but not have the same views, or interests, or compassion. What a sh*t storm of emotion. Luckily, the saving grace, is that we were first, and always will be best friends. The past two days have been extremely rough, and I know it will get harder, but we are having a very supportive outlook on the whole situation, and shared many laughs last night as we discussed our future and plans with splitting everything. (ex: She bought most of the cooking pans, yet, doesn't cook. She is horrible at it. lol Won't cook anything but egg whites. I joked, and told her she could take the one pan she uses. We both had a good chuckle) Making the quick repairs to the house before putting it up for sale so we don't get screwed and hopefully the house sells quick. Not to mention that awkward feeling when the person starts sleeping in the guest room I know it is for the best, but it still doesn't make the move any easier. A lot to take in all at once...
I just wanted to share this because I have a feeling my attention will now be more focused on our house, relationship, and figuring this mess out. I know I probably won't be checking in as often for a bit as I do not have a 'smart' phone, and computer 'free' time will be pretty much obsolete. I wanted to just give you guys and gals the heads up so you didn't think I was loosing interest in the community.
Best wishes everyone
~ Austen
I just wanted to take a moment to share a little with you all, some recent revelations me and my girlfriend have come to embrace.After eight long years of a serious relationship, we have to decided to face the facts that we have just grown apart. We met when we were just turning that cusp of our teens into our twenties. We became friends, later became roommates, evolved into lovers, and eventually grown into homeownership with a dog and cat. With my 30th birthday in just 10 days, we spent most of my 20s together. We shared many laughs, smiles, and great conversations. Yet, the love that had grown for each other, kept us from facing the truth. That for the past few years - the passion was gone. It's hard to explain, the hurt one feels from realizing that you just are better off not in a relationship to prevent hurting each other any more. I never knew it is possible to love someone so much, but not have the same views, or interests, or compassion. What a sh*t storm of emotion. Luckily, the saving grace, is that we were first, and always will be best friends. The past two days have been extremely rough, and I know it will get harder, but we are having a very supportive outlook on the whole situation, and shared many laughs last night as we discussed our future and plans with splitting everything. (ex: She bought most of the cooking pans, yet, doesn't cook. She is horrible at it. lol Won't cook anything but egg whites. I joked, and told her she could take the one pan she uses. We both had a good chuckle) Making the quick repairs to the house before putting it up for sale so we don't get screwed and hopefully the house sells quick. Not to mention that awkward feeling when the person starts sleeping in the guest room I know it is for the best, but it still doesn't make the move any easier. A lot to take in all at once...
I just wanted to share this because I have a feeling my attention will now be more focused on our house, relationship, and figuring this mess out. I know I probably won't be checking in as often for a bit as I do not have a 'smart' phone, and computer 'free' time will be pretty much obsolete. I wanted to just give you guys and gals the heads up so you didn't think I was loosing interest in the community.
Best wishes everyone
~ Austen
