StrangeFamous
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Hey folks, just wanted to know if any of you guys have ever went through the process of adoption? My wife and I are trying to gather as much information as we could on the process(es) and I thought that this community could also be a good source of information.
3 years ago my GF at the time decided to let Chris (the child we intend to adopt), his biological mother and father who were not married, stay at our home for a few months until they can get their act together. It was rather frequent that Chris' mom and dad would leave with their friends while we took care of their child. One day they decided to up and leave because they found a "new" place to stay and according to my GF, were tired of feeling like moochers. So weeks past with no word from the "family" on how things were going until one day we get the call from social services stating that we needed to take Chris because he had been left alone (mind you at this time Chris was only 3 years old). I was at work so my wife and her mom needed to drive their @ 11:00pm to pick up Chris. When they did, Chris was under the table, filthy, smelled as if he had not been changed or bathed for a few days and starving. Needless to say my GF took him in. At this moment of my life I was still trying to get my life together, so taking on a child was not something I had planned, so when my GF asked me if Chris could stay with us for a while, I had to decline. Well 3 years later he's still living with us, my GF and I are now husband and wife, goes to show you who wears the past in this relationship huh?!?!?
So we wanted to get the ball rolling for the adoption process, and I contacted my friend who has been a practicing lawyer for a little over a year. He was telling us that we need to locate one of the biological parents and serve them 3x before even presenting our case to the judge. Unfortunately my friend is up to his neck in work and can no longer help us out immediately with the adoption... so I was wondering if any of the experienced members of this board can help point me and my wife in the right direction. There's a lot more to this story that I would love to share but my fingers need a rest. To anyone that gets a chance to read and offer any advice, my wife and I would like to humbly thank you from the bottom of our hearts.
StrangaeFamoose
3 years ago my GF at the time decided to let Chris (the child we intend to adopt), his biological mother and father who were not married, stay at our home for a few months until they can get their act together. It was rather frequent that Chris' mom and dad would leave with their friends while we took care of their child. One day they decided to up and leave because they found a "new" place to stay and according to my GF, were tired of feeling like moochers. So weeks past with no word from the "family" on how things were going until one day we get the call from social services stating that we needed to take Chris because he had been left alone (mind you at this time Chris was only 3 years old). I was at work so my wife and her mom needed to drive their @ 11:00pm to pick up Chris. When they did, Chris was under the table, filthy, smelled as if he had not been changed or bathed for a few days and starving. Needless to say my GF took him in. At this moment of my life I was still trying to get my life together, so taking on a child was not something I had planned, so when my GF asked me if Chris could stay with us for a while, I had to decline. Well 3 years later he's still living with us, my GF and I are now husband and wife, goes to show you who wears the past in this relationship huh?!?!?
So we wanted to get the ball rolling for the adoption process, and I contacted my friend who has been a practicing lawyer for a little over a year. He was telling us that we need to locate one of the biological parents and serve them 3x before even presenting our case to the judge. Unfortunately my friend is up to his neck in work and can no longer help us out immediately with the adoption... so I was wondering if any of the experienced members of this board can help point me and my wife in the right direction. There's a lot more to this story that I would love to share but my fingers need a rest. To anyone that gets a chance to read and offer any advice, my wife and I would like to humbly thank you from the bottom of our hearts.
StrangaeFamoose