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How do I tell the wife?
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Marcos
I love you Rocky & Sammie and Bee...thank you
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Be honest and don't fly off the deep end once you tell her and start ordering everything under the sun. My wife can't stand it but she knows that I keep it under control and that I am not blowing the mortgage on cigars.
Mr_Wolf
He's watching.............
Glad to see you were honest with her! And always be respectful to her concerns! :thumbs:
I guess I'm pretty lucky, as my wife got me started in the hobby, bought me my first 300 ct humidor, doesn't mind me smoking in the house (as long as its not everyday), doesn't mind going to the B&M with me and waits while I cruise their humidor and BS with everyone, and enjoys going to just about all the herfs with me and really likes all my cigar buddies! :love:
Oh, and gets "aroused" by good cigar smoke :whistling:
I guess I'm pretty lucky, as my wife got me started in the hobby, bought me my first 300 ct humidor, doesn't mind me smoking in the house (as long as its not everyday), doesn't mind going to the B&M with me and waits while I cruise their humidor and BS with everyone, and enjoys going to just about all the herfs with me and really likes all my cigar buddies! :love:
Oh, and gets "aroused" by good cigar smoke :whistling:
muddstick
Brazilia Whore
Take up a worse habit....Get caught.
Then tell her you will quit the other habit and start cigar smoking. Shouldnt be a problem.
If you need any help with worse habits, I am sure we can help you with that as well.
Then tell her you will quit the other habit and start cigar smoking. Shouldnt be a problem.
If you need any help with worse habits, I am sure we can help you with that as well.
stevehawk
'Member? C'mon you 'member!
After a few years of smoking cigars, my wife and I have found our "middle ground". She primarily hates the smell and the cost, but knows that it relaxes me and that I could have worse "vices". Here's what works for us:
For the smell:
1. As soon as I finish a cigar, I brush my teeth and wash my hands.
2. If I've smoked that day, I shower before bed.
3. When I get home from a poker game where I've been smoking for hours, I drop my clothes in the washer on the way in the door and hit the shower right away.
For the cost:
1. Hide as many purchases as I can by calling them "cigar poker" winnings. :whistling:
For the smell:
1. As soon as I finish a cigar, I brush my teeth and wash my hands.
2. If I've smoked that day, I shower before bed.
3. When I get home from a poker game where I've been smoking for hours, I drop my clothes in the washer on the way in the door and hit the shower right away.
For the cost:
1. Hide as many purchases as I can by calling them "cigar poker" winnings. :whistling:
JetDr
D.I.L.F.
Bilder, I don't think it's the jet exhaust you have to worry about. I worry more about the carcinigins (sp?) that we handle on a consistent basis. It is the things like MEK, Methal Ethal Ketone, that worry me. There is nothing like having SkyDrol run down your arm into your armpit to make you think twice about the business.
hudsonvalley
MMMM...Ember
I read this thread yesterday and gave it some thought. Here is my advice, worth every penny you pay for it:
I would not, personally, hide cigar smoking. Hiding things often does more damage than the actual act. Be you, be the man she fell in love with. It is much more tiring in the long run to keep oneself hidden.
Secrecy does more damage to a bond than cigar smoking. Good luck.
I would not, personally, hide cigar smoking. Hiding things often does more damage than the actual act. Be you, be the man she fell in love with. It is much more tiring in the long run to keep oneself hidden.
Secrecy does more damage to a bond than cigar smoking. Good luck.
bilder
Active Member
Skydrol is nasty stuff! I hate it.
One of the mechanics failed to wash his hands after messing with it and went to take a leak. I guess that tingly feeling he got was not one of pleasure. :0 The mantra around here now is "Don't be like Wayne!".
You are right about the chemicals. Some pretty nasty stuff we deal with on a regular basis.
JetDr
D.I.L.F.
We like to call that "Great Balls of Fire!"
bilder
Active Member
TheVitaleMob
Full Trucker Effect
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Good to hear that she's "taking it well". Once she gets used to it, things will go back to normal. Just don't tell her where all of the money is going!!
countikon
New Member
Good job being upfront and honest man. No use in hiding it. My wife hates cigars too. She has finally consented to backing off of me on it. She even let me get a humidor. Of course I sold a guitar that I never use anymore for it. She will ocasionally voice her opinion on it and I tell her I understand how she feels but I'm going to do it anyway. I'm really only a smoke a week or two kinda guy so.
100% agreed, if you have to live a double life, you should re-think your first one.
Devil Doc
When Death smiles, Corpsmen smile back
How the hell does one hide cigar smoking? You reek of tobacco smoke after smoking one. If you start taking showers and changing your clothes too often she'll think your doing something worse.... much worse.
Doc.
Doc.
bilder
Active Member
I work swing shift and get pretty dusty/stinky at work on a regular basis. I always shower as soon as I get home and the clothes usually smell like some chemical or jet fuel.
She will be ok with the idea after awhile. I will just refrain from smoking around her and the kids (which I was going to do anyway) and things will be fine.
She will be ok with the idea after awhile. I will just refrain from smoking around her and the kids (which I was going to do anyway) and things will be fine.
AngryFishH
Official Big Fish
Fish's 5 Rules for Breaking the News to the Wife About Your New Cigar Habit
Rule#1: Start jogging, at least 1 mile a day, you may need to move fast to avoid the objects she could throw, and she may put up a chase so distance is key.
Rule#2: Be polite for the first few days leading up to the big day. A few compliments here and there with nothing expected in return. KEEP JOGGING!
Rule#3: The exit strategy. Put a pillow in the car because preparing for the worst is key and you may be sleeping there for a while. Jog, Jog, Jog.
Rule#4: Prepare by getting all the points you want to make clear ahead of time. You don't want this to turn into a fight about you not taking out the garbage. NOTE: Explaining that 20 smokes could cost about $175 bucks and require more care then the dog is not a good thing here.
Rule#5: Displacement. If she won't let you smoke in/near the house maybe this is a good leveraging point for that motorcycle you always wanted. Ex: I agreed not to smoke in front of the kids, why can't I get a motorcycle?
Fish
Rule#1: Start jogging, at least 1 mile a day, you may need to move fast to avoid the objects she could throw, and she may put up a chase so distance is key.
Rule#2: Be polite for the first few days leading up to the big day. A few compliments here and there with nothing expected in return. KEEP JOGGING!
Rule#3: The exit strategy. Put a pillow in the car because preparing for the worst is key and you may be sleeping there for a while. Jog, Jog, Jog.
Rule#4: Prepare by getting all the points you want to make clear ahead of time. You don't want this to turn into a fight about you not taking out the garbage. NOTE: Explaining that 20 smokes could cost about $175 bucks and require more care then the dog is not a good thing here.
Rule#5: Displacement. If she won't let you smoke in/near the house maybe this is a good leveraging point for that motorcycle you always wanted. Ex: I agreed not to smoke in front of the kids, why can't I get a motorcycle?
Fish
wilmotrogers
WilmotRogers
Consistent with just about everyone else here, my lady friend is not a big fan of cigars. I agree that hiding anything will only make it worse and trying to hide the fact that I smoked is near impossible. I don't smoke much more than 1-2 sticks/week, so it is a little easier. However, I learned that if I come over stinking like a cigar when she has had a rough day, that is a problem. So what I have done is I "prep" her by telling her I am going to read outside and grab a smoke. If she flips out too much, then I will just hold off. However, the amazing thing is that she has not flipped out at all. I think she likes the fact that I am telling her everything I do. Full disclosure.
Funny side note - I've been really stressed out at work, and getting ready to take the CPA exam. Last night, she actually told me that I should have a cigar to relax. I think she may be coming around.
Funny side note - I've been really stressed out at work, and getting ready to take the CPA exam. Last night, she actually told me that I should have a cigar to relax. I think she may be coming around.
Swissy
Livin' the retired life!
I hear you, but mine can be the queen of mixed signals. One day she's whining(!) that she doesn't want me smoking cigars, then the next day she'll tell me to call my neighbor and have a cigar with him and relax. WTF?!?! :laugh: too funny...